Madison Grey's Sex and Relationship Advice

Q - I’ve been with this guy that I really like for a while now and, every time we have sex I can’t orgasm. I’m a 25 years old woman and I can’t orgasm, I usually get too nervous that the condom will break; actually I just get nervous for no reason. The sex is good; he is no expert but at least it is enjoyable. So far I fake it well, I just wish I could actually climax.

-Madison, Washington

A - Dear Fake It,

Orgasm for a woman is about emotional comfort not just physical we like to be stimulated emotionally, find some sort of connection, be teased and pursued, there are many women out there that are in their middle 50’s and they still have not experience an orgasm. (Talk about faking it all those years!) You need to identify where this fear comes from and why is happening, if you are afraid about the condom breaking use extra protection, get on the pill, talk to you partner, let him know what is going on, open communication and letting him know what you like in bed HELPS. Relax let the inner wild woman in you loose. He’ll love it and so will you.

Q - I like my boyfriend to perform oral sex on me but he pretends not to listen to my body language. I don’t think he’s comfortable about it; he likes it when I do it on him but does not want to reciprocate. It’s just so weird. How do I get what I want?

-Stephanie, California

A - Talking about sexual issues can be a bit difficult but so necessary especially if you want to have good mind blowing sex. Oral sex seems to be important for you (and it should be!) so talk to him, find out the reason; the why, the what the heck is going on and then take it from there. Just remember, it is not always good to place yourself second, sometimes you need to come first.

Q - I’m 25 and I can’t find good love. I’m just ready to be in a good relationship. I’m tired of just dating around, I would like some stability that’s all I ask, seriously!

-Laura, Minnesota

A - You are young, enjoy it! Someone meant for you is out there, but your mate is out there. It sounds cliché and irritating but it’s true. Go out. keep dating. When you least expect it you’ll be saying, “I do”!