How to stimulate sexual intimacy through sexual touch

Sexual touch is not about orgasm, sexual touch is about exploration. Exploring with touch is a subtle and intimate activity.

Tips on how to stimulate sexual intimacy with sexual touch

Take your time. Make a date to do this when there won’t be many distractions. Sexual touch should not be done when you only have time for a quicky or if you have to rush off to work afterwards.

Clear your mind. Try to clear your mind before you start this kind of sex. It is important to feel calm and “grounded”.

Make your partner comfortable. If your partner feels at ease when you rub their feet or put lotion on their back, do this first. If your partner has chronic pain, make sure they are in a comfortable position.

Create a relaxing atmosphere. Dim the lights, turn on some soft music, and make sure the temperature of the room is comfortable. If the dog is outside barking, bring it inside or give it a bone (not chicken bones) to chew on.

Compliment your partner. Tell them about a few parts of their body you love. Be creative. Compliment them on something you might not have said before.

Touching your partner softly with your hands. Touch your partner in the quietest and most subtle way you can.

Touch with different parts of your body. Instead of using the most common parts to touch your partner (palm of your hands, fingers, and lips), try using the back of your hand, or the side of your face.