Breast cancer and sex

Unfortunately, in many cases, sexual activity stops when a person is diagnosed with breast cancer. This often occurs because fear and uncertainty are huge drains on your libido. Also, the emotional and physical changes a woman goes through during cancer treatment may cause them to feel that the are less attractive and assume that their partner's not interested.

Talking about breast cancer and sex

Communicate honestly and with compassion. Talking with each other and listening to each other will help address concerns about intimacy.

Tips to begin a conversation:

• Find time alone. Most couples have limited time together anyway. Schedule some time in a quiet place where you know you won't be interrupted.
• Start somewhere. Begin by talking about something comfortable and manageable. Some comfortable topics may be your vacation plans, even the weather. Once you're talking, try to work the conversation around to your fears, concerns, how the illness has changed you, and the importance of your relationship.
• Ask your partner to listen. Even if your partner doesn't want to talk about breast cancer and how it has affected your sex life, ask them to listen to what you have to say. . Eye contact and touch can give your words greater meaning and emphasis.
• Reassure your partner. Make it clear that you want to hear how he or she is feeling, that you're both in this together.
• Seek a counselor. If you're both having trouble communicating, think about talking with a counselor or a breast cancer support group. Many couples have similar problems
• Write a letter. Sometimes it is much easier to write how you're feeling in the form of a letter or even a journal entry than to say it out loud.

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