Why people fake an orgasm

The two most common reasons women give for faking orgasms are to make their partners feel better and to end sex when they are tired. A lot of women with male partners believe that their partners are not satisfied until they “give” their female partner an orgasm, thus sex will continue until the woman either has an orgasm, or fakes orgasm.

Other reasons why men and women fake orgasms are:

• You don’t want your lover to feel like a loser. You want to please your partner and are afraid of offending.
• You just want to get it over with. Your lover isn’t rocking your boat and you’re sick of going through the motions in trying to make things work.
• Sex-inhibiting antidepressants or lost libido.
• You feel disconnected from your partner.
• You’ve just realized that that person you brought home looked better at the bar.

Why it is not good to fake an orgasm

• You are training your lover to be a bad lover. You might not feel bad immediately after you do it, but in the end, you're hurting both yourself and your spouse.
• You are betraying your needs. You’re denying the opportunity for both of you to explore each other’s needs, techniques for improvement, and greater intimacy.
• You are giving your lover a false sense of security. Your partner should know if they are not satisfying you. Once they do know, they can learn to do it better. Honesty in the bedroom is just as important as honesty everywhere else in the relationship.

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