How to Recover from Embarrassing Sex

There is a long list of reasons why sex could lead to embarrassment, particularly if you have more than one partner. While it can also occur with monogamous relationships, it is usually easier to manage those feelings with the help of a supportive partner. Either way, an embarrassing sexual experience during can leave a person feeling shamed and upset, or even cause them to shy away from intimate encounters in the future.

Embarrassing sex happens. When it happens, use the guide below to help you move on and make the best of the situation.

Regardless of the root cause of the embarrassment, there are a few ways to address the issue:

• Talk to your partner. If you are involved in a monogamous relationship or you feel comfortable with the other person, open the lines of communication. No one looks forward to rehashing an embarrassing event, but sometimes it’s a vital part of resolving the issue. Tell your partner what you feel, and why you feel the way you do. Your partner will likely help to resolve your concerns and make you feel better about the incident.

If your experience took place with an acquaintance or a one-night stand, discussing the issue may not be an option. In this case, it is important for you to find a way to deal with the situation. Calling a close friend may be helpful. Even if you don’t feel like telling your friend specific details, they may be able to calm your nerves.

• Take it for what it is. At one time or another, we have to accept what has happened and move on. What’s done is done, and dragging the incident on for weeks or months will only cause more turmoil. The problem with an embarrassing event is that it’s never as bad as it seems, so while you may be walking around holding your head in shame, the other person has probably forgotten already.
• Accept that sex isn’t always pretty. No one’s bedroom life runs like an on-screen love scene, and you are no exceptions. While you may try very hard to look sexy, make yourself appealing, and become part of a great experience, sex can be tricky. Rest assured that no matter what’s happened, the same thing has happened to someone else.
• Voice your concerns in anonymously. Internet forums and support groups can be very helpful for individuals who want to remain anonymous.

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