Delayed Orgasm: What Is It and What Can I Do?

A delayed orgasm can be emotionally exhausting for a man or woman. Whether you are involved in monogamous relationship or have more than one partner, delayed orgasms can be frustrating, upsetting, and embarrassing.

What is a Delayed Orgasm?

When stimulation fails to cause an individual to climax at the expected time, it is knows as delayed orgasm. This can be recurrent for some men and women, or it may only happen once or twice, with no obvious reason. Others may find that there is no rhyme or reason to a delayed orgasm, as it may pop up every few months or only a couple of times per year.

Defining a delayed orgasm is tricky because everyone is different. While sexual stimulation eventually leads to an orgasm, a person who experiences delayed orgasms often feel that they take too long to climax. Since it’s strictly subjective, only you can decide whether or not you or your partner suffers from this type of orgasm. If the length of time causes you concern, then it is safe to consider it a problem.

While researchers continue to explore the mystery of delayed orgasm, a few possible causes have been isolated:

• Insufficient arousal – This may occur for physical, emotional, or mental reasons. If you or your partner fails to hit “the right spot”, or if you have too many things weighing on your mind, you may not be as aroused as you think.
• Medications – Of particular concern are anti-depression drugs, which can affect a person’s sex life in a variety of ways. If you are taking any medication classes as an SSRI, this may be causing you to experience delayed orgasms.
• Health concerns – Certain medical conditions may lead to delayed orgasm, such as diseases or afflictions affecting the spine or brain.

While there is no guaranteed method of treatment for delayed orgasm, finding the source of the problem is your best option. If you do not fall under any of the most likely categories, it may be best to seek professional guidance. The problem may stem from a change in hormones or increased stress.

Should you discover that unresolved issues are wreaking havoc on your ability to achieve orgasm, counselling may cause significant improvement. Even if you feel weighed down by concerns outside of your relationship, just talking to someone may be enough to correct the problem. While a delayed orgasm is usually no cause for concern, seeking help may give you the peace of mind you need.

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