Cybersex: An Affair or Harmless Fun?

Cybersex is a virtual sex encounter in which two or more persons connected remotely via a computer network send each other sexually explicit messages describing a sexual experience. Cybersex is a form of role-playing in which the participants pretend they are having actual sexual relations. Cybersex may also be accomplished through the use of avatars in a multi user software environment.

Cybersex is also called computer sex, internet sex, cybering, and net sex. If someone sends you an instant message or an email asking if you want to cyber, they are asking you to participate in cyber sex.

Cybersex and your relationship

Cybersex between a committed couple can be a life saver for couples who are in a long distance relationship. Couples living together can also use cybersex to spice up their sex lives. However, cybersex between two strangers, when one or both of them is in a committed relationship can cause trouble.

Is cybersex cheating?

Whether cybersex constitutes cheating is an issue many couples have seriously debated. If it feels like cheating, and you don't want to tell your partner, or share it with them, then it probably is.

My partner is cybersexing someone else, what should I do?

If your partner is having cybersex with someone else or spending more time with their internet 'buddy' than you, it is time to have a little talk with them. Tell your partner how you feel about your relationship and the relationship they have with their internet buddy. Ask your partner why they spend so much time with their internet buddy and what that relationship means to them. Your partner might be searching for something that is missing in your relationship.

Talk about your expectations. Your partner may not have a clear understanding of what you expect from them. If your partner is chatting, corresponding, establishing cyber relationships or even actually meeting other people offline, there is real cause for concern.