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Help, My Partner is Jealous of My Vibrator! While bringing a sex toy into the bedroom can prove to be a wonderful experience, it can take a wrong turn if you’re not careful. Typically, men are more bothered by their female partner’s obsession with a vibrator, although this can easily happen among same sex couples as well. A vibrator has so many functions that can be difficult not to get lost in the moment again and again. If you partner is growing tired of your vibrator obsession, he or she may be giving you subtle hints. Even if you have been using sex toys as part of your bedroom life for quite a while, your partner may have grown bored of a particular toy, or may simply be in need of some one-on-one time with you. If you are in a relationship with a man, it’s natural for him to be intimidated by a vibrator, particularly a deluxe model with all the bells and whistles. Many men feel self-conscious about their size and ability and watching you repeatedly experience pleasure from an outside source can easily damage his fragile ego. Alternatively, your partner may be showing signs of jealousy due to lack of involvement. If you are a woman, you no doubt take control of the vibrator more often than not. Simply stated, it is easier for a woman to find her pleasure spots, particularly during intercourse, possibly leaving a partner feeling inadequate. If you suspect that this may be the problem, try asking your partner to pleasure you with the vibrator, even if you experience less satisfaction than you would if you were at the reins. The more opportunities you give your partner to manipulate the toy and get used to your reactions, the better the experience will become. As with any problem in the bedroom, it is crucial that you discuss the issue with your partner. Feelings of failure or inadequacy can snowball into bigger problems in a very short period of time, making it much harder to find a solution. Reassure your partner that you love them and that you prefer their sexual stimulation or penetration. To prove your point, suggest putting the vibrator away for a few encounters and allow your partner to decide when it should be introduced. When dealing with a partner’s ego, it can be very helpful to put yourself in the other person’s shoes to prevent any further upset or frustration from occurring.
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