Introducing a Sex Toy to Your Partner

Even if you’re involved in the most open and emotionally available relationship of your sexual life, you may find it very hard to bring that first sex toy into the bedroom. Sex toys have received a bad rap over the years, being called everything from dirty to immoral. Sex toys can be a great way to enhance any sexual encounter, by introducing new sensations and levels of excitement.

Often, overcoming your own fear is the hardest part. You may feel uneasy about buying a sex toy, whether out of fear that your partner will not be responsive, or due to your own upbringing. Either way, many men and women have no choice but to take the plunge. Start the process by doing some research, to make sure you choose the toy that’s right for you and your partner. If you feel fearful about the situation, it’s shop around online before you start scouring your local sex shop. This way, you can ask questions about the products, read instructions, and learn how to care for your toys – all while remaining nameless.

Once you overcome your own fears, you may want to take the same approach with your partner. Ask him or her if they are ready to turn things up a notch and start off slowly with your suggestions. Perhaps suggest some racy lingerie, edible massage oil, or a warming lubricant. If all goes well, steer the conversation in the direction of clitoral vibrators. Proceed with caution as you suggest a vibrator for penetration and watch your partner’s reaction carefully. If your partner is a man, his male ego can be easily bruised by thoughts of “being replaced” by a toy. In this case, it is your job to convince him otherwise by explaining that you would like him to gain more control over your pleasure, and that you have no intention of abandoning your regular routine.

Ideally, your partner will be very receptive to your suggestions. In fact, he or she may have been longing to introduce a sex toy for quite some time, but couldn’t bring themselves to talk to you about it. In any situation, your partner’s reaction is key. To make the entire process much easier, suggest making your first purchase from an online sex shop. Research reputable companies and sit down as a couple to explore the options. This way, any of the potential embarrassment that can result from entering a local sex shop is eliminated, and your latest adventure will arrive in a discreet, unmarked package.

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