Raising a teenage step child
A lot of marriages break-up when a child is in the younger stages of his life. Growing up in a step family is an easier transaction than being a teenager and having to start a new life with a new parent. Most teenagers are trying to gain their independence, and it may be hard for a stepparent to raise them. The key is to be aware that your teenage stepchild is going to be moody. However, they still yearn to be a part of their new family. Raising a teenage stepchild can make you pull all your hair out, but don't worry, help is on the way. Here are a few tips on how to raise your teenage stepchild.
- Be a nice person. When your teenage stepchild does something wrong, don't telling them you disapprove, because they probably won't listen. Be a friend, that way, they will trust you.
- Don't try and compete with their biological parent. Be more of yourself. Your spouse is their biological parent, and they bring something different to the table. As a stepparent to a teenage stepchild, you bring a different flavor to the family, use it to your advantage.
- Enjoy your teenage stepchild. Your stepchild wants your affection, even if they don't say it or show it. If you now she likes music, take her to see her favorite band, and if he like the theater, take him to see a movie.
- Don't take it personal. You remember how it was being a teenager. You don't really now much about the real world, so when your teenager thinks they know more than you, be tolerant and give them space.
- Don' t buy their love and affection. Don't try and buy them what they want just so they can like you. If you do this, they'll only love you because you spend money on them. Let the love come naturally and don't force it.
- Invite your teenage stepchild to hang out with your family. Once a week, you should take your stepchild to visit your side of the family. Let them know that your family loves them unconditionally.