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A woman I barely knows says I'm the father of her child Being a father is one of the toughest jobs you'll ever have in your life. It brings joy and happiness to your life, and you have the pleasure of watching your child grow up. But what if you get a phone call one day from a woman you barely know and she says you're the father of her baby? From that moment forward, your life will change forever. The first thing you need to do is talk to the woman. Find out how long she has been pregnant and what she expects from you. Don't get mad or angry at the woman. Remember, it takes two to tango, so you are in this together. Even though you may not remember the incident you must acknowledge the fact that you may be the father of the child and the two of you will have to work together to make sure your child is being raised accordingly and in the right environment. If the baby is not born yet, try and be supportive to the expecting mother. She needs your support as well as the baby. The baby may be yours, and you don't want any resentment towards you from the mother because you weren't there when she was pregnant. The resentment can manifest into a stressful situation that may cause her to keep the child away from you. If the baby is already born, get a blood test as soon as possible. You do not want to become attached to a baby that may not be yours. If you want to tell your family and friends about the baby, tell them that you're having a blood test done and you're not sure if it's yours. Telling them will help them get prepared, but it also lets them know not to get their hopes up because the baby may not be yours. If the baby is yours, start making arrangements to take care and support your child. Getting to know your child's mother should be the first step in starting a relationship with your child. Your child is the innocent one in this relationship.
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