When a marriage fails, kids are always affected. No matter how good your justifications are for your decision to split up, your child might have a strong desire to keep his or her family intact. Consider your child's thoughts and feelings.
Below are some tips on how both you and your child can deal with divorce:
- Communication is very important –Share some information with your children. They don't need to know the intimate details of your divorce, but share with them as much as you can without causing them to dislike their mother or father.
- It's not their fault – Children of divorce tend to blame themselves and feel less loved. Explain to them that they did not cause the divorce.
- Closure – Tell them your marriage is over. This may sound like your being one as a family has ended but it hasn't. Console them by making room for bonding during special occasions or school plays or soccer
- Time heals – Your child might have a hard time letting go. Be patient with them. Time will help them better understand and cope.
- Lessons in Change – As the old saying goes, life is a constant change. Help your children realize that no matter how hard we try to keep things as they are, changes will occur and we have to accept the