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How Inter-Racial Dating May Affect Your JobEvery year in the United States there are 50,000 babies born who are bi-racial. This means that school and workplaces are seeing a rise in people who have one parent who is from one race and the other parent who is from another. Education and training is necessary from the early years so that these individuals will be as accepted and will feel as much a part of a group as do people who come from a homogenous family where both parents are White for example, or Black or Asian. No matter how open minded you may be, it is a fact of life that not everyone will feel the same as you do and share your views about the person you are dating. The negative pressure you may feel at work when events such as parties, dances and luncheons arise when you bring your date may at first seem like an undercurrent of emotion when the relationship is still in the casual dating phase, but it could become very blatant and obvious to both of you once the relationship becomes more serious. For many years dating and marrying outside of your own race was a definite no no and was against the law. The technical term for dating, living with, and/or marrying someone of a different race was miscegenation (which means to mix with members of a different race or ethnically diverse social group). Bi-racial dating is also sometimes called interracial dating or interethnic dating. Sociologists have created the term “exogamy” to describe bi-racial dating and marriage. Staying within your own race and social group on the other hand is known as “endogamy.” The term miscegenation is not used much any more but it is sometimes used to describe racist ideas and attitudes, which makes it offensive to many. A bi-racial couple fought the laws against bi-racial dating and marriage in 1967 in the state of Virginia, which was a tremendous breakthrough. The famous case was “Loving Et Uxor v. Virginia” which was brought into the United States Supreme Court and in that year the anti-miscegenation law was deemed unconstitutional. The reason for this was because “Ender our Constitution, the freedom to marry, a person of another race resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the state.” It is unlawful for a person to be treated differently at their job because they are involved in a bi-racial relationship. You cannot be passed up for a promotion or a pay raise based on whom you choose to date. Unfortunately there may be pressure, gossip and off handed snide comments from your employer(s) and/or your co-workers that can hurt. Bridging the gap between the races, especially between Caucasians and African Americans, is an ongoing process and it starts with education. It is essential for a couple to realize what the situation is and to try to remain a united front despite all of the negative pressure that surrounds them. In order to grow as a couple you must accept what you cannot change and change what you can.
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